Continuing the discussion from i can’t live in the present :
Hii, tysm for this, it’s has been rlly helpful and encouraging for me.
‘I wonder who else knows about what you have experienced?’
- Some of my friends do, but not the full story, I also did not tell them how I felt and how I am
How have you been coping?
- Better than I expected, I journal sometimes and I can identify times when I will get flashbacks of the incident and I can better deal with it (sometimes I just push it away though). But I find less joy in things I like to do and this is affecting my focus in important things in my life
and i’m safe right now but I would like to know in situations I don’t what should I do?
and i am experiencing emotional abuse right now.
I keep living in the past, I would create scenarios constantly in my head to escape from reality(this greatly affects my focus and attention). If i feel down I will keep reliving those past memories in my head where I felt happy to lift my mood which is also hindering my ability to move on. Nowadays I just feel rly numb and empty, like i don’t have a personality anymore and now I hate socialising
and it’s just fake and overwhelming for me. A convo with a friend feels like answering exam questions. I tend to overthinking a lot also.
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My depression is relapsing cuz of my current horrible job
U wanna go hiking to get mind off things?
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Dear Rachelle,
I think I just replied to your other post about your father, am I right? Apologies if it is not so. Thank you for sharing more!
Yes, if you do not feel safe at any time, please call the National Anti-Violence Hotline at 1800-777-0000 (if there is abuse/violence), SOS at 1767 if you have thoughts of ending your life, or in times of emergency, call 999 or 995 as the police/ambulance are able to reach you in the shortest time possible.
It sounds like you have in place some great strategies to cope with flashbacks, times when you feel down or when you notice yourself living in the past. Journaling is a wonderful way to safely unload to a non-judgemental ‘being’ who can also help you process what has happened in the present by simply reflecting back to you. The act of writing and confiding in our journals is also known to be therapeutic to many. I wonder if you would consider also doing some mindful meditations via apps like headspace or Calm, try yoga/pilates or do mindful walks or runs?
I notice a part of you is numbed out and prefers to be by yourself. I would like to invite you (if it feels right to you) to be curious about this part and ask it why it does what it does, what it is trying to protect you from and what are its fears and concerns. My guess is that it is trying to help and protect you in some ways. But of course, this may be hard to do and if you would like to go deeper and heal, you might like to reach out to a trauma specialist or a professional counsellor who works with trauma. We have provided some contacts to you for this and hope they would be of use to you.
Take good care, Rachelle!
Hugs,
northernlights
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