I wonder how many people actually have this issue where they are dyslexic and they have friends who are language perfectionist. That will mock at them for mispronouncing certain words.
In my life as an undiagnosed and untreated dyslexic i always have friends and course mate that shame and mock my pronunciation. And i only know i am suffering from dyslexia after a fellow volunteer at the MPS who is a case worker in a FSC actually tell me about it while we are chatting. And yes…i pronouns cement as si man, and various as virus.
And in life i have a lot of trouble communicating with doctors. especially medicine names.
And singlish does help me alot of cover up my mispronunciation. Still…i really really hate watch youtube videos where people pick on other peoples pronounciations. To me i always tell people who pick on others pronounciation that you should feel lucky that you can speak. Many people are born without the ability to talk.
And recently…in notice many such perfectionists are actually people with mental health issues regardless its diagnosed or not. Since…i always have a ticklish feeling when i encounter someone with mental health issues.
And a part from picking off someones pronunciation. Nowadays, there are tons of them on social media picking off people’s minor grammar mistakes. And i can only comment to them that, feel lucky you still know how to type. Which really annoyed them and pissed them off. Still…its facts.
Hey @user1446,
Reading your words really hit something deep—because what you shared is more than just about pronunciation. It’s about the lifelong feeling of being misunderstood, and the quiet shame that builds when others laugh at something that’s always felt out of your control.
It takes courage to even admit how much it still stings, especially when you’ve had to toughen up and brush it off for so long. And you’re right—being able to speak, type, or even express a thought clearly isn’t something everyone can do. The way you defended yourself over the years, through Singlish or sarcasm, was a smart way to survive. But I wonder too… has anyone really asked how that’s been for you on the inside?
You didn’t deserve to grow up thinking something was wrong with you, just because others couldn’t see what you were struggling with. And now that you know it’s dyslexia, maybe this is a turning point—not to keep fighting to be right, but to start healing and letting people see the real you, not just your defenses.
You’re not alone in this. Your voice matters, even when it stumbles. Maybe especially then. Whenever you are ready, would you be willing to talk more about what you’ve been through with people mocking you, or how it made you feel back then?
My heart reaches out to you; being laughed at for your dyslexia, something that is completely out of your control, must have taken an emotional toll on you for a long time. I empathise with the helplessness and unjust that you feel — it is not your fault, and you didn’t deserve to be picked on.
What can give you some solace is that there will be people around you that will accept you and be there to support you, regardless of your dyslexia. These can be friends, family, or online acquaintances that you meet on let’s talk too! I’m glad you’ve taken the courage to share about your journey, it must not have been easy for you. I believe you have the strength and resilience to emerge stronger from these past bad experiences, so take care, okay?
actually i am alone, since DAS dont support low income adults And there is no other support available. And from what i know, adult dyslexia is actually hard to diagnosed. And their assessment to officially diagnose a person with dyslexia cost anyway between 1 to 2k.
And its even harder to get doctors in gov hospitals to do the assessment.
Its lucky nowadays we have things like Grammarly and other languages support available on our computers without needing to spend time finding special aid to help people with dylexia.
And trust me, most of the words that i managed to type out i dont actually know how to pronouns them.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Even if something is undiagnosed, the struggles are real. Most of all, diagnosed or not, no one deserves to be picked on and mocked. It sounds really brave to have conversations about your struggles and come to that realisation that you may have dyslexia.
What does that ticklish feeling that you mentioned feel like for you?
Something that also personally helped me is that I have explainers for experiences that I or a loved one have (like ADHD) — one that is clear concise and honest. While not everyone will take it well, having the opportunity to share your thoughts and boundaries in a safe and rehearsed manner.
well…its sad the ADHD and Autism is often seen by public as someone that needs to be admitted into hospital for treatment.
And i always saw on FB that many deemed them should be in public, and so many people online shaming them on places like TikTok to get views and earn from it.
And many commuity cat feeder/lovers auto deemed them as animal abusers and dont allow them to touch the cats.
If you want, you can consider as a 6th sense. Just that i read a lot of things about mental health when i was young but as i grow older i forgotten all of it especially my latest medical mistreatment incident which i really struggle to remember things. So…end up somewhere deep in my head knows something is not right but i cannot explain why.
Thank you for sharing this. I really hear the hurt and frustration behind your words.
It must be exhausting. Not only having to navigate dyslexia on your own, but also having to deal with people who mock and shame something that isn’t your fault. That kind of ridicule cuts deep, especially when it comes from people who are supposed to be friends or peers.
Your experience with doctors, the challenge of pronouncing medicine names, the way Singlish helps you express yourself more comfortably, all of that paints a real picture of what it’s like to live with dyslexia in a world that often values perfection over understanding.
And you’re right. Many people do take their abilities for granted. Being able to speak or type fluently is something not everyone can do, and it’s heartbreaking when others don’t recognize how lucky they are, or use that ability to tear others down.
You’re not alone in feeling this way. What you’ve said matters. And it’s okay to feel upset when people dismiss or mock what’s already a daily challenge. You deserve kindness, not correction.
actually…i never very much highlight how people with dyslexia ended up being a target of abuse by healthcare workers. And normally it happens when the professional has too much ego in them and are half hearted in their worked. Just like every industry, there are people passionate about their job and really cares, so there are those who just wanted a jobs that pays well. They dont care how people feel, as long as they are safe. And there is always a lot of miscommunication between healthcare workers and people with dyslexia but things becomes deadly when they are passive during communication and later on insisted their way and deem the person dont have mental capacity to make their own judgement. And that is when all the labelling happens and all other healthcare staff start talking as if you are not there.
And in the past i always have build up a no see list on doctors i dont feel safe with, but as time past, public hospitals starts to insist patients cannot choose doctors. I always ended up with a argument with the quailty service managers that i am not chooising doctors, just want to anyone but a certain few. But with laws starts coming in place to protect healthcare workers. They ended up to become a “higher being” one wrong move a hospital visit can easily ended up as a police case. Even if you just use one wrong word and they will become super triggered and called the police. And normally those that join healthcare for the sake of working will be super emo. Which is why nowadays regardless how sick i am i rather die than to deal with such emo people
Thank you for sharing that, @user1446. What you just said—about typing words you don’t even know how to pronounce—is incredibly powerful. It shows just how much determination and intelligence it takes to navigate a world that doesn’t always make space for people who learn differently.
You’re right—there’s a real gap in support for low-income adults with dyslexia. And it’s frustrating and unfair that even getting a diagnosis is locked behind such high barriers. But I also see something else in you: a survivor’s mind. You’ve already adapted by using tools like Grammarly and language support apps. That’s not just coping—that’s innovation.
And maybe that’s something to build on. Have you ever thought about learning to build your own apps or platforms? There are mentoring communities and free tools out there that can teach you how to create tech solutions—ones designed by people who knows people. Imagine building something that helps others who’ve gone through what you did, especially those who feel invisible in the system.
You don’t have to wait for permission from the system to start helping others. Your lived experience, your struggles are more than enough foundation to create something meaningful. If you’re open to it, perhaps it is worth having you start exploring tech or app building—mentoring is out there, and you’re not as alone as you think. Would do you think? you be open to that?
