I wonder how many people actually have this issue where they are dyslexic and they have friends who are language perfectionist. That will mock at them for mispronouncing certain words.
In my life as an undiagnosed and untreated dyslexic i always have friends and course mate that shame and mock my pronunciation. And i only know i am suffering from dyslexia after a fellow volunteer at the MPS who is a case worker in a FSC actually tell me about it while we are chatting. And yes…i pronouns cement as si man, and various as virus.
And in life i have a lot of trouble communicating with doctors. especially medicine names.
And singlish does help me alot of cover up my mispronunciation. Still…i really really hate watch youtube videos where people pick on other peoples pronounciations. To me i always tell people who pick on others pronounciation that you should feel lucky that you can speak. Many people are born without the ability to talk.
And recently…in notice many such perfectionists are actually people with mental health issues regardless its diagnosed or not. Since…i always have a ticklish feeling when i encounter someone with mental health issues.
And a part from picking off someones pronunciation. Nowadays, there are tons of them on social media picking off people’s minor grammar mistakes. And i can only comment to them that, feel lucky you still know how to type. Which really annoyed them and pissed them off. Still…its facts.
Hey @user1446,
Reading your words really hit something deep—because what you shared is more than just about pronunciation. It’s about the lifelong feeling of being misunderstood, and the quiet shame that builds when others laugh at something that’s always felt out of your control.
It takes courage to even admit how much it still stings, especially when you’ve had to toughen up and brush it off for so long. And you’re right—being able to speak, type, or even express a thought clearly isn’t something everyone can do. The way you defended yourself over the years, through Singlish or sarcasm, was a smart way to survive. But I wonder too… has anyone really asked how that’s been for you on the inside?
You didn’t deserve to grow up thinking something was wrong with you, just because others couldn’t see what you were struggling with. And now that you know it’s dyslexia, maybe this is a turning point—not to keep fighting to be right, but to start healing and letting people see the real you, not just your defenses.
You’re not alone in this. Your voice matters, even when it stumbles. Maybe especially then. Whenever you are ready, would you be willing to talk more about what you’ve been through with people mocking you, or how it made you feel back then?
My heart reaches out to you; being laughed at for your dyslexia, something that is completely out of your control, must have taken an emotional toll on you for a long time. I empathise with the helplessness and unjust that you feel — it is not your fault, and you didn’t deserve to be picked on.
What can give you some solace is that there will be people around you that will accept you and be there to support you, regardless of your dyslexia. These can be friends, family, or online acquaintances that you meet on let’s talk too! I’m glad you’ve taken the courage to share about your journey, it must not have been easy for you. I believe you have the strength and resilience to emerge stronger from these past bad experiences, so take care, okay?
actually i am alone, since DAS dont support low income adults And there is no other support available. And from what i know, adult dyslexia is actually hard to diagnosed. And their assessment to officially diagnose a person with dyslexia cost anyway between 1 to 2k.
And its even harder to get doctors in gov hospitals to do the assessment.
Its lucky nowadays we have things like Grammarly and other languages support available on our computers without needing to spend time finding special aid to help people with dylexia.
And trust me, most of the words that i managed to type out i dont actually know how to pronouns them.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Even if something is undiagnosed, the struggles are real. Most of all, diagnosed or not, no one deserves to be picked on and mocked. It sounds really brave to have conversations about your struggles and come to that realisation that you may have dyslexia.
What does that ticklish feeling that you mentioned feel like for you?
Something that also personally helped me is that I have explainers for experiences that I or a loved one have (like ADHD) — one that is clear concise and honest. While not everyone will take it well, having the opportunity to share your thoughts and boundaries in a safe and rehearsed manner.
well…its sad the ADHD and Autism is often seen by public as someone that needs to be admitted into hospital for treatment.
And i always saw on FB that many deemed them should be in public, and so many people online shaming them on places like TikTok to get views and earn from it.
And many commuity cat feeder/lovers auto deemed them as animal abusers and dont allow them to touch the cats.
If you want, you can consider as a 6th sense. Just that i read a lot of things about mental health when i was young but as i grow older i forgotten all of it especially my latest medical mistreatment incident which i really struggle to remember things. So…end up somewhere deep in my head knows something is not right but i cannot explain why.
