secondary school student here. so i live w a narcissistic parent who constantly vents to me without giving me a chance to do so, and everything she says makes me want to cry and feel hopeless.
i was clean from scratching (sh) a while ago, but recently got back into it because the temporary pain makes me forget about all the other stuff troubling me.
when i say something like “when you scold me it makes me want to cry”, my parent will just retort back, saying “your school fees make me want to cry” (because im an international student and personally, juggling between my personal life and school life is exhausting enough, so my grades are always unstable.)
to be honest? ive been trying. she never listened, neither does she want to. the last time i tried talking to her i just got scolded for. she’s a single parent, i get it. but im tired too. i dont know how to continue anymore.
I suspect i might have Borderline, not sure though.
Hi @vee, this sounds like a very stressful situation to be in. You deserve to have a space to vent too, and I am glad you have posted here today Sounds like your mother is turning a blind eye to your struggles and has the tendency to put her own on a pedestal, which is unfair to you. You have very vulnerably shared your struggles with self-harm, to which I wonder, how do you feel about seeking professional support (from a school counsellor to begin with) and work through some of your troubles together? Since your mother is unable to provide emotional support for you and burdens you with her own troubles, it may help to have a professional around to guide you better. Let me know how you feel about trying that out. Another alternative would be the national mindline (1771) that can connect you with a professional as well. Take care!
not really comfortable, theres a lot of bullying cases in my school for seeking help and im scared to do so. my mom is constantly working and claims she dosent make friends, only co workers
I can understand why you might not feel comfortable speaking to a school counsellor if you’re worried about how other students might react. If you’ve seen or heard about bullying happening to people who seek help, it makes sense that this would make you cautious.
What stood out to me from your earlier post was that you’ve been trying to tell your mum how you’re feeling, but it sounds like those conversations often end with you feeling unheard. After a while, that can become very tiring.
I’m also a little concerned when you mentioned that you’ve started scratching again after being clean for some time. Usually when a coping strategy comes back, it can be a sign that things have been feeling harder to manage recently.
For now, I think it’s important that we don’t lose sight of what you shared in your first post. You’re juggling school, difficulties at home, and your own emotions at the same time. That’s a lot for one person to hold.
Even if speaking to a school counsellor doesn’t feel like an option right now, please keep talking here when things get heavy. And if the scratching is becoming more frequent or you feel like you might act on stronger urges, do let someone know as soon as possible, or reach out to a helpline such as National Mindline 1771 or SOS 1-767.
It sounds like you’ve been trying for quite some time already. I’m glad you posted here today.
Sounds like your mother is turning a blind eye to your struggles and has the tendency to put her own on a pedestal, which is unfair to you. You have very vulnerably shared your struggles with self-harm, to which I wonder, how do you feel about seeking professional support (from a school counsellor to begin with) and work through some of your troubles together? Since your mother is unable to provide emotional support for you and burdens you with her own troubles, it may help to have a professional around to guide you better. Let me know how you feel about trying that out. Another alternative would be the national mindline (1771) that can connect you with a professional as well. Take care! 