thanks for sharing but i’m also really sorry to hear about what happened. sounds like it was really tough for you. and i’m glad you have things to live for now
Hi @Coagulate,
I can hear how much you’re carrying with this upcoming family event, and it makes sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed and fearful about being around them for an extended period. It’s understandable to feel scared that the stress might push you to your limits. Family dynamics, especially in intense situations, can trigger so many difficult emotions, and I just want to say that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
You asked about dissociation, and it sounds like it has been a way for you to cope when things feel too intense. Sometimes, dissociation can be the brain’s way of protecting us from feeling overwhelmed, so it’s not necessarily a bad thing. But I also understand your concern—if it becomes too frequent, it might make it hard for you to stay connected to your experiences.
If grounding techniques haven’t worked for you, that’s okay. It’s normal for different methods to work for different people. I wonder if you’ve tried sensory-based grounding, like focusing on the feeling of cold water on your hands or engaging in physical activities that require concentration, like stretching or even light walking? Sometimes, we need to experiment with what feels best for us. But remember, you don’t have to force yourself out of dissociation—it’s important to take things at your own pace and you need to be safe!
I’d also encourage you to allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up, even if they feel uncomfortable. It’s completely okay to feel scared, disempowered, or even angry. None of these feelings are wrong, and acknowledging them can sometimes reduce their power over you. Sometimes, you may choose to speak out and let those around you know that you are unwell and you wish to excuse yourself to rest…
It’s great that you were able to attend therapy, even when you didn’t feel like going—that shows incredible resilience, even when things feel tough. Keep holding on to that strength, and know that even in the darkest moments, your emotions are valid, and they matter.
Take things one moment at a time, especially with this upcoming family event, and feel free to check in whenever you need to.
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Life can be such a jerk to people sometimes but I believe that you can overcome this no matter how slow it takes to recover, just like other illnesses, it will take time to heal and sometimes it don’t heal but we just become better at dealing with it (Sorry if any of my words offended you, I wanted to comfort you but I suck at words cause I’m dyslexic)
I’m so glad you’re still here and found things to live for
Hello, @coagulate !!
I just received a message whereby you thought that I am targeting you since my message is VERY similar to yours. I just though that our stories were quite similar, so I used you as an inspiration.
But I now know that you feel like I am targeting you, so I am very sorry for that! And I have edited that post. Please do check it out and tell me if you are comfortable with it.
And also, I pray for you, that you will be healed, and that you may have positive thoughts. I may not know you, but I’ll try to understand. I know that what you’re going through is tough, and just know that god is with you no matter what. We might not know each other, yes, but I do care. I hope that you may be happier, and that life will be better for you. What you’re going through right now, you don’t have to go through it alone. Please try to eat! Stay strong and healthy, okay? ^ω^ Please don’t end your life. You matter. Don’t think like, “ohh it’s okay if I end my life, I’m not important in this world anyway.” No, because you ARE. Every single one of us in this world has a part to play, which means that we are all equal and important. And I understand if you can’t quit self-harm, because I can’t too. But what I’m doing right now is that I keep it off my mind, and I focus on doing what I love, and what makes me happy. Perhaps you can try it too! Hopefully it helps!
By the way, fun fact (or maybe not FUN, hehe), I’m 12. Yep, 12! I’m actually 11 now, but my birthday is on December. Yep…hehe. So if this message isn’t that good, sorry! I try! Get well soon, and take care! Love you!! <3 ~☆*:.｡. o(≧▽≦)o .｡.:*☆
-d. ^^